Reddit is filled with stories of demanding brides, but one post about a woman who reportedly banned all non-vegan guests from her wedding is getting more attention than most.
The post, entitled “This lady banned all non-vegans from her wedding, including family and bridal party,” features a screenshot of a message that was seemingly shared in the Facebook group “VEGAN REVOLUTION.” The message appears to be from a bride who allegedly uninvited all meat-eaters from her wedding.
“Some family members were told they were not invited to my wedding because we don’t want to host murderers,” a portion of the initial post read.
An update was then added to the post, where the purported bride claims her family has “attacked” her for her vegan lifestyle.
“They have consistently attacked me and my partner just for being vegan but when it comes to my wedding, they want to be all buddy buddy with me again,” the edited post read. She added: “I don’t want the weight of having people that still kill animals (the very beings we are trying to protect) at my wedding on my conscience.”
INSIDER has not been able to verify the identity of the bride in the post. However, the alleged situation raises an interesting question about wedding etiquette.
Is it appropriate to exclude guests from a wedding based on their diet or lifestyle choices?
Veganism Lifestyle Coach Victoria Moran told INSIDER that she thinks inviting everyone would be the best course of action in this scenario.
“I would invite everyone I love to my vegan wedding and, in fact, I did that 22 years ago when I married for the second time,” Moran told us.
Moran also thinks that serving a vegan menu to all guests is one of the best ways to share your values.
“Those of us who wish that everyone ate the way they do are far more likely to bring this about by sharing fabulous food with everyone we know than by excluding anybody,” she said.
Etiquette expert Jacqueline Whitmore of The Protocol School of Palm Beach told us this alleged situation is rather unique, but the guest list is ultimately up to the personal preference of the couple.
“I have never heard of a situation like this before,” Whitmore told INSIDER. “It is strictly the bride and groom’s decision to invite whomever they want to their own wedding.”
When it comes to the menu, Whitmore once again thinks this is completely up to the couples’ preference, but being accommodating to guests is the mark of a good host.
“If they are vegan then they may choose to serve a vegan menu, regardless of whether their guests are vegan or not,” Whitmore said. “However, a good host will offer a variety of options so that no guest leaves the event hungry or dissatisfied.”
Beaumont Etiquette’s resident wedding etiquette expert Anne Chertoff said that creating a wedding menu that caters to the couples’ own dietary needs is not against proper wedding protocol.
“A couple can choose to create a menu with their caterer that reflects their own dietary needs, such as vegetarian, vegan, nut-free, gluten-free or kosher,” Chertoff said. “Guests are sure to enjoy these menu items.”